Affection..Hott topic lately.
whoa..i wonder if they named the store Hott Topic after just being a hott topic?
anyway.
are words better than gestures..
are gestures better than words...
i cant say which is completely better, but i have a clear preference.
when i walk into a crowded room with that special someone..instead of hearing, "hey babe dont get lost", or "hey darling meet me at the other side"
I'd much rather feel the light touch of your hand on my back, or the slight squeeze of my hand. Because, to me, gestures win.
holding on to me says so many things, in your favor.
For EXAMPLE
the light touch on my back could mean a million things...."he doest want to lose me, or he wants the men in there to know i'm with him, or its just a reflex to protect me"...any of those make me smile.
The slight squeeze of my hand could mean, "hey lets get through this together, or its way too busy in here so he needs to hold on tighter." and i'm okay with both :)
I love affection.
showing affection, and finding those that affection me back.
At home, We dont always feel affectionate.
i think Zite stands for fighting or angry, or seperation in some dictionary..
ha i'm just kidding..but it should.
but still, every day we all make sure we say i love you..even if were so mad.
because i heard, i think my dad told me, a story about a young boy.
This young boys dad made this little boy wake up at the break of dawn after a long night the night before. This boy was not happy about it and he made his dad know. His dad dealt with his attitude like it was a normal thing, and when his dad left for work he yelled out i love you too his son. The boy hears his dad say this, and ignores it. Without a reply his dad walks out the door, to work. About three hours later, the young boy is in school and hes called out of class, to be given the information that his dad was in an accident and has died. And as he cried he remembered the hours before, and how he treated his dad, and how he never said he loved him.
Now the young boy lives with the regret of never saying I love you back to his dad.
I think i heard that story when i was a little girl..and it has haunted me ever since..
When ever i'm so mad at my parents or my sister, or their mad at me. We always end arguing with an I love you, or the next day. Because we dont know what our future has in store.
okay back on track.
I guess what i'm saying is i'd rather be hugged and kissed at a hello, than the actual word being said alone.
I would rather be holding your hand up the street, than a foot or so behind you.
I would rather a pleased look after i kiss you in public than an embaressed and a quick look around to see if anyone saw.. cause Believe ME. No one cares.
I would rather your hand on my knee, than your hand on yours.
I would rather a kiss on the cheek, than a wave.
I would rather. I would rather.
but no matter what i want i appreciate anybodys views on this subject.
I've dated guys that love affection..I've dated guys that dont really know how to show it.
and I dont have a preference when it comes to that.
Because everyone has a past, has a story. Some which affect you deeply, some which dont really affect you. And i cant say that a past of love is better than a past of no love. Because both made you who you are today.
and i cant say that the process of growing and strenght isnt beautiful.
Well..
Obviously i do have a preference..and even if its not the same preference as yours..
affection or no affection.
its okay with me.
-Alex Brynn
